My beautiful mother turned another year older last Friday. The rough plan to have dinner together that evening was scrapped because Grandma and Grandpa were returning back from KL that afternoon and we weren’t sure what time they would arrive. So dinner was postponed to Saturday.
One of the things that saddens me the most with Mum is that I often feel so inadequate as a daughter in relation to what an awesome mother she has been to me throughout my life, and especially in the last decade as I have battled on and off with ED. I know that she wants so, so much more for me, and feels that I constantly shortchange myself whenever I allow myself to fall prey to ED. She’s right.
Mum never fails to be a pillar of support and encouragement to me whenever recovery gets tough – and this of course, extends to every other facet of my life. She has not only been a wonderful mother, but also an amazing friend ready to offer her ears (as long as I’m not being annoying) and reminding me of the important things in life. Thank you Mum!
On Saturday, with grandma and grandpa back, the 6 of us squeezed into the car and went to Jumbo Seafood Restaurant in Dempsey for dinner. I know that Mum enjoys her seafood but seafood in Singapore is generally on the more expensive side so she seldom indulges in it. This is yet another quality about Mum that I admire – she, like Dad, would always rather save money to spend it on Kor and I, than to spend it on themselves. So even when she sees a blouse she likes, or hankers after a good ol’ grilled lobster, she would rather do without even though we can afford it.
We did forgo the lobster at Jumbo, but we did make sure to put in an order for their signature Chilli Crab with Steamed Man Tou to mop up all that gravy. Now, no one who visits Singapore should ever leave without trying our famous chilli crabs. It can be found on the menu of every seafood restaurant as well as ‘Cze Char’ stalls, and while each may have their own secret blend of spices that go into the sauce, I tend to keep to Jumbo simply because they are consistent and their chilli sauce has enough of a spicy kick to keep me happy.
A few other places I have been to tend to either water down their sauce, or make it a bit too sweet to cater to the European palate. I’m sure though, that there are many more restaurants and eateries that make a meaner bowl of chilli crab. I just have to whittle them out.
We also wanted a serving of Scallops wrapped in Yam Rings but they were out of those, so we went instead for a plate of Sautéed Scallops.
We decided on two vegetable dishes – the Broccoli with Mushrooms and Seaweed Beancurd which was well cooked and nicely seasoned, as well as a simply plate of Spinach Stir-Fried with Garlic.
As a filler, we had the Seafood Fried Rice which came in quite a generous portion. I’d ordered all the dishes to come in small portions and at one point, we were wondering if perhaps we should order one more dish. Thank God we decided against it because we were all just nicely filled after all the food was polished off!
And, we still had enough space for the Mini Lime-Avocado Chiffon Cake I baked for Mum. It was very light and fluffy so with everyone having a bite each, it was gone within seconds. It was a bit of an experiment since I also know that Mum isn’t into heavy, rich cakes these days, but I’m pretty sure that of this moment, it is a one-of-a-kind cake, just as my beautiful mother is one-of-a-kind as well.
Grandma and Grandpa are not usually in Singapore over her birthday so it was nice to have them with us to celebrate. Also, it was Flo’s first time meeting Grandma and Grandpa. Mum told me later that they like him a lot and enjoyed talking with Flo. Even though I wouldn’t have expected anything less, as always, it was nice and reassuring to hear that the two oldest, most important members of our family approve! 🙂
And the icing on the cake was definitely knowing that Mum thoroughly enjoyed dinner, especially getting her hands dirty extracting the meaty crab from its shell!
We love you Mum! XOXO
P.S. Yes Mama Chong read my blog!